How to Negotiate
Relax. Accept conflict calmly. Take a deep breath before you say the next thing.
Avoid the aversive. Keep in mind the aversive strategies you might be tempted to use.
Discounting:
Withdrawing/abandoning:
Threatening:
Blaming:
Belittling/denigrating:
Guilt-tripping:
Derailing:
Taking away:
How to Negotiate: classic compromise solutions:
I’ll cut the pie; you choose the first piece:
Chores , Business
Take turns .
Mountains vs Beach - Romantic vs Action Movie
Do both; have it all:
movie and dinner
My way when I’m doing it; your way when you’re doing it.
Quality time with kids
Tit for tat .
cleaned the bathroom vs vacuum
Trial period .
for a specific length of time then revaluate.
Part of what I want with part of what you want .
Train and air. Emotional talk vs Physical intimacy
Split the difference:
Price, 10 days vs 4 days vacation . 7